Four Ways to Strengthen Relationship with Your Children
by Wai Chong Mak
FeedTheVillage.com - Tips and Advice: Four Ways to Strengthen Relationship with Your Children
Many parents like to find out ways to enrich or improve their relationship with their children. I have found some simple ways that can strengthen relationship with our children. We need to spend quality and quantity time to cultivate our relationship with our children. 1. Listen to our children Our children love our attention. They will do things to get our attention. It can be good behaviour or misbehaviour. If we can give enough attention to our children, the chance of misbehaviour will be reduced. We can assign some time in a day to listen attentively to our children. We listen to their needs, opinions and feelings. Our role is a good listener and ready to give our children emotional support. When we are attentive to our children, they feel important and being respected. They will share and talk to us more about their concern, worry and problem. We are there to give support to our children. 2. Give affirmation Our children are longing for our affirmation. They like to help us and contribute to household chore to show that they care for our family. We can assign the duty and responsibility in the house for the children. It can train up their responsibility. When they contribute to the family by performing household chores, we recognize their effort and contribution and praise their effort and character. It also helps to build their self-esteem. 3. Individual time We give individual time to our children, they feel loved and important. We like to chit-chat with our children before sleep about 5-10 minutes each child. They are happy to download their worry and problem before sleep. They like us act as good listeners. We give our children love message before sleep. It is a summary of what they have done well in the whole day. They enjoy listening to our observation and positive feedback. For example, I said to my eldest son,"You are helpful to take care of your brother when I am not feeling well." They love to listen to our affirmation. 4. Family activities with children The more time we spend with our children, the more enriching relationship with them. We can arrange activities to do with them, such as we eat, play and pray with our children. We develop our hobbies together, for instance, collecting stamps, coins, cards, reading, swimming and outdoor activities. We will have more time to get to know them better through interacting with them. Our relationship will improve as we invest time with our children. We suggest you spend more time with your children to develop enriching and lasting relationship with your children. The time spent is worthwhile in the long run. Act before it is too late.
|
